Tip of the Week

January 21, 2025

Silence speaks a thousand words

Silence during conversations can feel uncomfortable and awkward. Consequently, we often rush to fill the silence. What if we didn’t? 
 
Though it may seem counterintuitive, silence is an essential part of active listening. Silence creates space for your child to express their thoughts and feelings without interruption, which can create a more thoughtful and richer conversation. Silence also shows your child that you are patient and interested in hearing what they have to say. We all want to be heard.
 
It is important to use silence purposefully and appropriately for the situation. This will take practice to feel comfortable, but stick with it. What you get in return will pay huge dividends. 
 
Below are a few ways you can use silence effectively. 
 

Length of Silence

Purpose of Silence

2-5 seconds

  • After a simple question
  • Following your child’s response

5-10 seconds

  • After giving instructions
  • After a thought-provoking question 
  • To help your child transition to a new task

10-20 seconds

  • During emotional or personal discussions 
  • During problem-solving activities